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Dedicated to change.

At the Atlanta Center for Couple Therapy, we are committed to helping individuals and couples identify blocks, change negative communication patterns, and help you maintain and grow the love in your life.  There is a science to what we do.  We don't want to just heal your relationship.  We want to help you create a relationship that heals.  

 
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If you are single, struggling to find a relationship or coupled, struggling to keep the relationship you found, the Atlanta Center for Couple Therapy can help you improve the sense of safety and security in your relationship. Dr. Alan Graham is a Certified Emotionally Focused Therapist and Supervisor and brings over 20 years of experience working with couples and individuals.

Hover over each image to learn Thich Nhat Hanh’s mantras for relationships.

 
 

Thich Nhat Hanh’s Mantra # 1

Knowing we have someone there for us gives a sense of a "Safe Haven," a place we can go to recover from the challenges of life. This Safe Haven is what we long to feel when we return to our beloved at the end of the day. I knew one couple that greeted each other this way: “Hi, how are you?” and the other said, “I’m better now.” This feeling of a Safe Haven is what we have in our heart throughout the day, knowing our relationship will reaffirm this feeling upon our return. This is the essence of “Darling, I am here for you.”

Safe Haven

Thich Nhat Hanh’s Mantra # 2

Out of the Safe Haven, we also have a sense of a “Secure Base” from which we can go back out into the world to meet its challenges. When you are seen as someone who is very precious, you experience the immense value your beloved has for you while you are out in the world. Then, in the midst of life’s slippery places, this love is available as a steady hand to hold so you don't lose your balance. This is the essence of, "Darling, I know you are there and I am so happy."

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Thich Nhat Hanh’s Mantra # 3

Suffering is painful but what makes it worse is when we suffer alone. In fact, the most important factor contributing to traumatic experience isn’t the nature of the event, it’s whether you're alone during and afterward. With a Safe Haven and a Secure Base, you can genuinely feel deep down that you're not alone. This is the essence of “Darling, I know you are suffering and that is why I am here for you."

I’m here for you

Thich Nhat Hanh’s Mantra # 4

A true friend is someone you can reach to for help in your most vulnerable moments, knowing they will respond. This kind of trust is the most important part of a primary relationship, only possible with a Secure Base, a Safe Haven, and knowing you’re not alone. It is always risky to reach out with your vulnerable needs but when you do, and when your partner responds with love, this trust grows. And each time you reach, your relationship will be changed by the trust you place in them. This is the essence of, “Darling, I suffer, please help me.”

You’re here for me

“Understanding someone’s suffering is the best gift you can give another person.

Understanding is love’s other name.

If you don’t understand, you can’t love.”

–Thich Nhat Hanh

 

Join us for a weekend.

Created for couples struggling with communication, intimacy, and security, Hold Me Tight® is a two-day intensive Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) workshop.  We meet in in metro-Atlanta four times each year for an experiential weekend to help couples stop negative patterns, heal broken bonds, and deepen the connection that’s longed for.  Check out testimonials on our website by clicking below.  

 
 

Clinical EFT Supervision

 

Dr. Graham is an ICEEFT Certified Therapist and Supervisor and offers individual and group supervision for clinicians who have completed the Externship in EFT.  In addition to case consultation, clinicians present video or audio clips of their sessions and receive in-depth supervision from an EFT perspective. Clinicians hone their EFT skills by learning how to experientially use the model to conceptualize cases, intervene effectively, understand and resolve therapeutic impasses, work with trauma and attachment injuries, and guide their couples from conflict into connection.  

Dr. Graham has two on-line supervision groups.  These groups meet every other Tuesday, 12 PM - 2 PM and every other Thursday, 9:30 AM - 11 AM (Eastern Time).  Both groups have openings.  

If you have questions or are interested in group or individual supervision, contact Dr. Graham here.  Supervision is available in-person as well as on-line in a HIPAA compliant video format.  

 
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Conveniently Located


The Atlanta Center for Couple Therapy is conveniently located in Northeast Atlanta near the intersection of Interstate 85 and Clairmont Road. 


Our office is in the Century Lake Office Condominiums complex, which surrounds a small man-made lake.  We are on the parking level of Suite 1780.  Make sure you have the entry code to enable the doorknob before you arrive.